There is more wedding etiquette involved in the invitation than in any other part of the wedding. The invitation set the stage for the wedding and the invitation style should match the wedding’s style. This is where your guests will be getting all your wedding information: degree of formality, suitable attire, attendance of children, etc.
When should I order my wedding invitations?
• As soon as you determine your wedding date and your wedding style. But definitely try to order 6-18 months in advance. January through April is particularly busy time for designers. Also, remember to order extra invitations and envelopes just in case if mistakes are made. Lastly, you don’t order invitations by your total guest count since you can send one invitation to a couple or an entire family.
When should I send my invitations?
• Invitations should be sent at least 6-8 weeks in advance. But obviously, the earlier the better so guests have ample time to plan. Especially if your wedding falls on a holiday or at a destination where hotels get booked up quickly. This is where it might be best to send a Save the Date so your guests can block out that date and plan ahead.
What type of paper should I use?
• Traditionally you should use paper that is 100% cotton which gives the paper its luxurious or satiny feel and the stock weight should be in the range of 65lb to 85lb. As an Envelopments Designer, we offer 231 different types of colors and offer 100% cotton paper and even we offer green products that are made of 100% post consumer paper.
Now how should I address the envelope?
- Now this is where it gets a little tricky and this is where we have several etiquette rules.
- Here are some of the top etiquette rules you should follow. A more in depth view and examples will be available or our stationary website.
• To a married couple: Invitations should be addressed Mr. and Mrs. Harold Sabine.
• To unmarried couple: List both names and be listed alphabetically by last name not by sex.
• No abbreviations are used in the address. Spell out everything.
• If a middle name is used, spell it out rather than just the initial.
• Regarding guests: Usually it is understood that an invitation is only extended to the person whom it is addressed. If you have room and budget, you can allow your single friends to bring a date. You should get the name of the date and either list that persons name on the invitation or send them a separate invitation.
What should I include in the invitation?
- All standard invitations should include: outer envelope, inner envelope, invitation, rsvp card, and rsvp envelope.
- You can include a Reception card in the invitation if the reception is at a different place than the ceremony.
• A Directions card is not necessary but helpful especially for out of town guests.
What shouldn’t I include?
• Coupons for hotels or car rentals
• A note explaining where the bride is registered for gifts
• Or a note requesting that cash gifts are appreciated.
• This information should be passed by family members.